‘…Be clear minded and self-controlled…’ 1 Peter 4:7 NIV
Going from childhood to adulthood is a transition that requires a lot of wisdom and love. Your teen will feel and behave child-like sometimes, and adult-like other times. Your job is to realise that whatever their status, they will become a man (woman) and they will remain adult! Navigating through their child-adult struggles elevates your teen’s stress levels, sometimes making them feel out of control.
To help them become a mature adult: (1) Be rational, not reactive. Your role requires you to be ‘clear-minded and self-controlled’. Be the grown-up; you cannot help your child to become an adult if you’re not one. (2) Be their parent, not their mate. They need someone ‘in charge’ to shepherd them toward maturity. If you abdicate your role because you’re afraid of your child’s anger, rejection or unhappiness, you abandon them to their own confused ways. You are the calm God put in their storm – the lighthouse to guide them. In the short term, they may consider your values, rules, lifestyle and morals outdated. Expect no less; that’s par for the course in parenting. Hold this line! Forget becoming ‘cool’ by lowering your standards; that’s a no-win alternative to good parenting. They’ll challenge you if you’re not cool and they’ll challenge you if you are. (Nothing is as ‘uncool’ to a teen as a parent trying to be ‘cool’!)
Be yourself, maintain Biblical standards; they need you to have character. Yes, they’ll fight you now, but if you remain resolute, loving and consistent, they’ll follow in your footsteps.
Dan 11-12, Matt 8:28-34, Ps 89:38-52, Pr 3:1-2
‘When I was a child…When I became a man…’ 1 Corinthians 13:11 NIV
Do you sometimes wonder if your teenager is ever going to reach maturity? Welcome to the toughest phase of parenting! A teenager can go from optimism to pessimism, excitement to boredom, self-confidence to self-doubt, happiness to despair, sociability to reclusiveness, tranquillity to volatility, cooperation to opposition – in a head-spinning second! And when you ask them, ‘What’s wrong?’ they say, ‘Nothing,’ or ‘I don’t know.’ And the truth is; they don’t!
Bombarded by changing biochemistry, your child is navigating between the worlds of childhood and adulthood, needing your understanding and patience. For them the odyssey of adolescence can feel freakish, embarrassing and perplexing. Children know the roles and rules of their world, adults know theirs. Children are expected to act like children, and adults like adults. But teenagers have traits of both worlds, yet belong in neither. When they’re in child-mode, they’re forbidden to be childish. ‘Will you ever grow up?’ we ask. When they’re in adult-mode, they’re denied adult privileges. ‘Of course you can’t…You’re just a child!’ The worlds of adults and children are relatively distinct, stable, predictable places. But it’s not so in the fuzzy realm of your teen. They alternate between two worlds, never certain whether they’re fish or fowl, adult or child. So they gravitate toward peers who share but also don’t understand their experiences.
What do they need? Parents who understand and assure them, ‘When I was a child, I spoke…understood…thought as a child, like you do. But when I became a man [or woman], I outgrew the confusion, and you will too.’
Dan 8-10, Matt 8:18-27, Ps 89:15-37, Pr 2:21-22
‘…The Lord…gives you the ability to produce wealth…’ Deuteronomy 8:18 NIV
God holds back ‘…no good from those who do what is right’ (Psalms 84:11 NLT). But it’s important to acknowledge Him as the source of all your blessings. And on this one, we all fall short!
Let’s face it, more isn’t always better. In fact, your dependence on God lessens as your dependence on things increases. That’s why Levitical Law discouraged empire-building. In the Old Testament, loans to the poor were to be interest-free (Exodus 22:25); outstanding debts cancelled every seven years (Deuteronomy 15:1-2); slaves freed and given the means to start over (Deuteronomy 15:12-14); repossessed land redeemed by family (Leviticus 25:25); and property that was sold, or lost and not redeemed, returned to its original owner (Leviticus 25:14-17). Why? Because God wanted His people to depend on Him, not possessions. So He cautioned them, ‘When…all you have is multiplied…You may say…”My power and…strength…have produced this”…remember the Lord…gives you the ability to produce wealth…’ (Deuteronomy 8:13-18 NIV). God’s principles haven’t changed.
Andy Stanley points out that a list of do’s and don’ts is like having a man give you directions. If he hands you a map, you focus on it, but when you’re following the man you focus on him. The Bible doesn’t say that God is a rewarder of those diligently seeking ‘things’. No – it says, ‘…He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him’ (Hebrews 11:6 NKJV). Bottom line: if you’re depending on anything but God, you’ll always struggle. ‘Don’t worry about these things…your Heavenly Father already knows…and…will give you everything you need’ (Matthew 6:31-33 NLT).
Exo 20:7, Isa 29:22-24, Matt 6:9, Phil 2:5-11 (Commandment 3: Don’t misuse God’s name)
Then Jesus went to work on his disciples. “Anyone who intends to come with me has to let me lead. You’re not in the driver’s seat; I am. Don’t run from suffering; embrace it. Follow me and I’ll show you how. Self-help is no help at all. Self-sacrifice is the way, my way, to finding yourself, your true self. What kind of deal is it to get everything you want but lose yourself? What could you ever trade your soul for?
‘Jesus knew what they were thinking… [in their hearts].’ Luke 11:17 GNT
For a spiritual checkup to be effective, you must examine the following three areas:
(1) Forgiveness. ‘Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony. And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are called to live in peace…’ (Colossians 3:13-15 NLT). Are you quick to forgive those who have hurt you? Do you try to resolve conflicts as soon as possible? Are you harbouring resentment? (2) Soul winning. ‘Go therefore and make disciples of all nations…teaching them to observe all things that I have commanded you…’ (Matthew 28:19-20 NKJV). Do you have a concern for lost souls? Do you seize every opportunity to share your faith? Does your life show what your lips say? (3) Prayer. ‘Seek the Lord and His strength; seek His face evermore’ (1 Chronicles 16:11 NKJV)! Do you have a consistent prayer life? Do you pray faithfully for the needs of others? Have you learned to pray in faith, standing on God’s Word and believing Him for great things? Do you see the results of your prayer life? Has your prayer life led you to a deeper intimacy with the Lord?
If you’re serious about in-depth change, growth in your spiritual walk, and developing a Christ-like character, spend time with the Lord today and say, ‘Search me, O God, and know my heart; try me, and know my [thoughts]… lead me in the way everlasting’ (Psalm 139:23-24 NKJV).
Dan 3-4, Matt 8:1-9, Ps 84, Pr 2:16-19
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Get yourself ready! Stand up and say to them whatever I command you…’Jeremiah 1:17Are you embarrassed about your beginnings? Jeremiah was. He begins his book by listing the good people and the bad people in his background. Well, guess what? We all came from a less-than-perfect gene pool! We’re all a mixed bag. So what should you do? Learn from those who did it the wrong way, and follow those who did it the right way. Discover the purpose God put you on earth for, and fulfil it. Keep the torch burning brightly, then hand it over to the next runner. Endeavour to finish strong and hear your ‘Well done, good and faithful servant.’ And watch what you say! The words you speak not only influence others, they influence you too. When Jeremiah told God that he wasn’t the right age, God said, ‘Don’t say that!’ When he complained that he was not a gifted speaker, God said, ‘Don’t say that either!’ When he saw the size of the opposition his knees buckled, but God said, ‘‘Get yourself ready! Stand up and say to them whatever I command you. Do not be terrified by them, or I will terrify you before them. Today I have made you a fortified city, an iron pillar and a bronze wall to stand against the whole land—against the kings of Judah, its officials, its priests and the people of the land. They will fight against you but will not overcome you, for I am with you and will rescue you,” declares the Lord’ (vv. 17-19 NIV). And God didn’t promise just to be with Jeremiah; He’s promised to be with you.Job 15-17, Matt 5:13-26, Ps 42:1-5 , Pr 1:20-23